What To Do When You Feel Like Others Have Hijacked Your Train
In case you were wondering what happened to Wisdom Wednesday last week… when I sat down to write, the feeling I had felt confused and murky and unclear. And then when I began to write, what was coming out felt the exact same way. What the heck?! Try as I might, it was all jumbled and made no sense, so I just “let go” of my expectations to send out a message last week (yoiks!).
The energy of this week feels so much clearer. And yet, despite things feeling clearer, I find myself in a difficult situation. Imagine you decide you’d like to take a trip and you invite a friend to come along. Each of you are excited about the possibilities of going on the trip so you begin to make plans. Then imagine your friend meets up with another friend, and the two of them start taking about the trip. Both of them get excited. Now imagine that your friend and this other person are so excited about this trip that they start making plans and booking tickets and setting things in motion, all without you saying “yes” to anything. The trip was your idea, you initiated it, and as far as you knew, your trip had nothing to do with this third person. All you know is that you had intended to go on a trip with your friend and had asked them to come along.
In the meantime, many plans have been put in place, without you knowing or having input. By the time you find out what has been put in place, the train has left the station and nothing that they are doing is what you originally had in mind. So what do you do? Do you hop on board their train? Or do you make the choice to let go and continue creating the trip you had originally had in mind? Do you let go of the idea of having your friend come along? This is where I find myself this week. I need to make some choices.
Have you ever found yourself in a similar situation?
So here I sit to write for this week’s Wisdom Wednesday, intending to connect with the highest ones of love, light and wisdom. To connect with Mother Earth, Father Sky, and the greater part of me, beyond the veil of this Human Walk. And I ask, “What is in the highest and best interest to communicate for Wisdom Wednesday?”
Peace. How can you create more peace in your life? We encourage you, especially now, to find ways to bring more peace, and peace of mind, into your daily life.
The tension and dis-ease in your world right now can have an negative impact on your health. And when we speak of health, we speak in broad, all-encompassing terms. Health of your body. Health of your mind. Health of your spirit. Health of your emotions. Health of your community. Health of your family and friends. Peaceful ways of being in your daily life will greatly reduce your anxiety and the physical manifestation of dis-ease. Many of your dis-eases are unnecessary and can be averted with an increase in feeling peaceful.
Take the time each day to be in a state of peace in your body, in your mind, in your emotions, in your spirit. Perhaps a bath is calming for your body, mind and emotions. Or swimming in the ocean. Or painting a picture or writing. For some, gardening is a way to connect with the land and clear away the stress from the day. For others it may be walking in nature or meditating or exercising.
Find something that you enjoy that increases your peace and joy. This will lighten your heart and ease your earthly journey.
Now I was curious, and needed more information about how to approach the current situation I face. So then I asked, “What is the root of the dis-ease and dis-comfort I feel with the situation I currently face and how it is unfolding? What do I need to know that will bring me more peace, more awareness, and more clarity regarding what to ‘do’ or ‘not do’?”
Be honest. Honest in how you are experiencing the events. Speak your truth, not from a place of judgment, but rather from a place of peace and clarity and observation. And from a place of dis-attachment to any notion of “right” or “wrong.” Instead, come from a place of honouring all those involved in the situation. And remember to honour yourself, too. Honour your feelings and honour your inner “yes” and “no” regarding any action you may decide to take, or not take, as the case may be.
Do your best to speak your truth in a way that creates space for all to be honoured and for all “ways of being” to be “okay” and without judgment. Now, when we say this, we do not mean that in the process of honouring others and creating space for them to walk their own path that you just blindly go along in an effort to “not cause waves.” No, this is another opportunity to express your truth and communicate what is feeling honouring and feeling like a “yes” and what is not feeling like a yes without the need to make anyone wrong.
It is just choices that everyone is free to make. Merely choices. And some times the choices others make may require you to disengage in order to honour yourself and your inner “yes” and “no.” And that is OKAY! Again, if everyone could allow for the possibility of every choice and answer being “okay” without the need to judge the choice as “right” or “wrong”, you create an environment for all to express their truth freely, without feeling judged to be wrong.
So then it comes back to deciding what you’d like to have happen. What you’d like to create in your reality. Each time you make a choice, conscious or not, you create agreements with yourself and manifest future experiences. For example, if you make the choice to go against your inner “yes”, then what you are telling your subconscious is that you’d like more experiences that place you into situations that feel like an inner “no.” Do you understand?
Conversely, each time you honour your inner “yes”, you affirm you’d like more experiences that generate an inner “yes” for you. This is the planet of free choice so you have a sandbox to play in. What will you create? It is all up to you and what you’d like to experience more of.
If you make the choice to allow people to treat you poorly, then you affirm to yourself that you’d like more of those experiences. Contrast this with speaking your truth. Yes, there will be some who make the choice not to hear or want to listen or accept your truth. They want to push their own agenda forward. And that is OKAY! At the same time, you do not have to agree with them, nor do you need to judge them. All you need to do is decide what YOU would like and how YOU would like to interact, or not. This is a natural filtering process.
As you change and grow, your frequency changes and as your frequency changes, you will become “incompatible” with the frequency of certain people, even people you feel you are close to now. Celebrate! Celebrate when this happens! Yes, these people may move out of your life. And that is OKAY! You will then be compatible and harmonious with others, walking your path with them for as long as they are compatible.
This is the way of the universe. Like attracts like. As you change, the agreements and beliefs you hold about yourself (and others) will change, thus who you attract into your life will change.
Rest your heart at ease. Know that you have choice every step of the way. Know that there is a golden tray solution for every situation you face in your human life, even if you currently cannot see or feel it. Just trust yourself more and more each moment. And trust the step-by-step process and you will move through all situations with as much ease as is possible with your current level of understanding.
So what situation in your life right now requires attention and speaking your truth? Are you willing to feel the fear and do it anyway? Can you be in the mindset that everyone’s opinion and choice is okay? Can you honour everyone’s choice, including your own? If you need to extricate yourself from a situation you currently find yourself in, are you willing to feel the fear and honour your inner “yes” and “knowing” and take the required action to extricate yourself?
There is no judgment one way or the other. It is just choice. Always and in all ways.
Much love and light and peace to you this day and always.
Have you ever felt like others have hijacked your train? If yes, comment below and let us know how you decided to handle it.
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